PLAYERS

I've been played by more men than I can count. In defense of the male race, not all men are players. At least 5% are decent human beings. (laugh, it's a JOKE)
There are many signs to identify a player.
The first sign you are being played is when your instincts tell you so. Many of us repress or ignore the red flags because we want to believe they don't exist. Never deny your gut instinct. It is NEVER wrong. This is a lesson I've learned in my 40 years of life. I trusted too much. I justified poor behavior and ignored rationalization. I was naive and vulnerable. This made me prey to the scumbags of the earth- THE PLAYERS.
A man who showers you incessantly with flattery and compliments before the first date is another sign. Don't get me wrong, compliments and flattery are WONDERFUL, but to an excess is a sure sign of a player. (This is the "luring" process in action.) When a man tells you what a great person he is- that's another RED FLAG. People who are genuinely good at heart do not need to boast about it. Yuck. Learn how to be humble, you arrogant ASSHOLE. Men who tell you they are attentive and honest and open, in more than one conversation- RED FLAG.
Men who tell you they are great in bed are FULL OF SHIT. Most of them have no idea what they're doing or have never read a book or educated themselves on how to please a woman. Don't tell us! SHOW us that you're good in bed. Of course, when the opportunity arises, they SUCK. We end up faking it, (again) but because we're women we excuse their INABILITY to pleasure us and settle for the shitty lovemaking experience. Then we justify it by telling ourselves it's because the relationship is new and it will get better over time. THAT'S FUNNY. Over time, it becomes non-existent. Three months is usually the breaking point. At that point, the meaningless effort is gone and the only one being satisfied is HIM. The three month mark also signifies the decline of flattery, attention, and compliments. Courtship becomes non-existent. Excuses, lies, and manipulation take it's place. Manipulation is hard to identify. Men can be really deceiving. The promises never happen but at this point, it might be too late. Women get attached very quickly. Don't be vulnerable. Watch for the signs: If he's good looking, he's probably in love with himself.  If he's a MEATHEAD- he's in love with himself AND his body.  (Meatheads are weightlifters who who can't stop looking at themselves in the mirror.) All they talk about is how much they bench-pressed that day. A man who takes longer to get ready than you do, is a player. (Yuck!) A man who looks at himself in every mirror you walk by (Yuck!Yuck!) is a total JERK OFF. Avoid at all costs. A man who tells you what to wear or asks a question such as, "Honey, did you do your hair today? (pause) Why don't you wear a hat? I love when you wear hats." This is a materialistic ASSHOLE. (This is something I've experienced, and I continued to date him- GAG ME.)

Don't be fooled, ladies.
The PLAYERS are out there. Waiting...